The Magic of “What if…”

Are you satisfied with the results of your actions (or lack of actions)?

Consider this cycle:

  1. You hold certain beliefs, such as “I’m not a person who…” or “I can’t use a calendar.”
  2. When you think about doing one of those things, you feel apathy or even defiance.
  3. The unpleasant or negative feelings lead to avoiding actions that would have furthered you towards a goal.
  4. You don’t like the results you do get and possibly feel a bit of self-recrimination.

The results become evidence and the cycle continues.

Beliefs lead to thoughts which bring about feelings that influence behaviors and consequently results.

When you repeatedly get results that do not support your goals or your happiness it’s time to stop and consider what could be in the way. What if you interrupt the “I’ll do that later…” or “It’s too hard…” or any other sad excuse? What if you notice when you have a thought that is likely to interfere with an intended action? What if you reflect on how you’ll feel later if you avoid following through with your intention? What if you disregard the excuses and take the intended action anyway?

What if you give yourself the chance to do more of what you say you want for yourself and be more of who you say you want to be?

If you want different results, then you need different actions. Different actions require different feelings, and different feelings need different beliefs. So, when you hear yourself thinking “I’m not …” STOP.

You are, you can, and you will.

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