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Wouldn’t it be Nice if…

Let’s play a game. It’s called “Wouldn’t it be nice if…”

Here’s how to play– think of something specific you want to do, have, or be. Add that to the framework. For example, “Wouldn’t it be nice if I got eight hours of sleep,” or “Wouldn’t it be nice if it was easy for me to prioritize.”

Sure, there are some things that would be nice … winning the lottery, finding the fountain of youth, having a chauffeur. But those may be just a bit beyond your reach. However, sufficient sleep or being able to prioritize are totally doable. That is if you really want them and are ready to make it happen.

John Asseraf said, “If you’re interested you’ll do what’s convenient; if you’re committed, you’ll do whatever it takes.”

Sometimes it’s easier to know what you don’t want than what you do want. So get clear about what you really want. Can you imagine being the person who does what it takes to have what you say you want?

  1. Do you believe you can have it, that you deserve to have it?
  2. Do you really want it or just think it would be nice?
  3. Finally, are you ready to do whatever it takes?

Let’s look at your answers:

  • If the answer to #1 is “not sure” or “no” you might want to start smaller and work your way up to your bigger, ultimate goal.
  • How about #2? Do you think you “should” want to do, have, or be whatever you have in mind? For example, you have friends with new cars and you have an old Toyota that you actually love, but wonder what kind of statement it makes about you. I am anti-should, so don’t let others tell you what you feel. On the other hand, it never hurts to get an outsider’s opinion on how your image is impacting your reputation.
  • Number #3 is easy. If you’re ready, it’s good to have support. Here’s where I can help. As a coach, I help you clarify your goals, create realistic action plans, schedule the steps, work through obstacles, and get results.

To-Do, or Not To-Do


Is your To-Do list the bane of your existence? Or is it an effective time management tool? Those of us list-makers find that writing things down can alleviate possible memory issues, such as going to the market and leaving without the most important item, or packing for a trip to a beachside resort and discovering you forgot to pack a swim suit.


But some people personify the To-Do list and hear it relentlessly nagging with “you should…” or “when are you going to…” If you have a list with countless items and you don’t begin because you don’t know where to begin, you are likely to have thoughts like that run through your head.


Why not find ways to effectively manage your to do list?

  1. Categorize items
  2. Prioritize items in each category according to things like due dates
  3. Estimate roughly how much time, and when you can realistically attend to the high priority tasks
  4. Schedule them in your calendar as appointments


If you still feel that your To-Do list is more like the Grim Reaper constantly hovering over you than a helpful reminder of what you’d like to get done, how about a Not-To-Do list?


In her article “To-Do Lists are Great but Do-Not-Do lists Might Be Even Better for You,” Caroline Liu argues that a Do Not Do list lets you dump (or limit) the things that are keeping you from what’s really important. This list makes you look at all the things that you do do in your day and say, “this is not worthy of my time, I’m not going to do it any more.”


The key thing is to NOT. DO. THEM. ANY. MORE.


The Upside of Failing


Did you know — At age 23 Oprah was fired from her first reporting job? Or that Stephen King was working as a janitor and living in a trailer when he was 24? How about this fun fact– at 28, J.K. Rowling was a single parent living on Welfare. And finally, Def Jam Records dropped Lady Gaga after three months. She went on to earn six Grammy awards and thirteen MTV Video Music awards!

Microsoft co-founder, Bill Gates famously said, “it’s fine to celebrate success, but more important are the lessons of failure.” The key word here is lessons.
Lessons mean you get to look at your intention, review what worked, what didn’t and then make adjustments. Failing at anything, from eating a big dessert three days into a new diet to writing a report that you discover is missing a paragraph only after it goes to print, means you get to learn how to make future attempts get more pleasing results.

This is lots of what we do in coaching. We shape behaviors so improvement is constant.

Are You Ready to Take a Stand for What You Say You Want?

There’s a life changing concept I want to share with you. It’s based on a line in the 1976 movie, Network. In it, the news anchor rants to the television audience, “Things have got to change. But first, you’ve gotta get mad!… You’ve got to say, ‘I’m as mad as hell, and I’m not going to take this anymore!’”

Maybe you’re not quite mad as hell, but perhaps there are things in your life that you’re tired of, frustrated with, given up on. Maybe you think you “should” do something, but you haven’t done anything yet and you don’t have a plan.

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Things don’t change just because it would be nice if they did. And you’re not necessarily going to do something differently just because it’s a good idea. But if you’re ready to take a stand for what you want to do, or be or have and commit to that…well.

John Assaraf said, “If you’re interested, you’ll do what’s convenient; if you’re committed, you’ll do whatever it takes.” Yes, change might be a bit of a challenge. So what. Lance Armstrong put it well when he said, “Pain is temporary, quitting is forever.”

So I challenge you to take a stand for yourself. Use this quote by Paul J. Meyer as your affirmation. “Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe, and enthusiastically act upon must inevitably come to pass.”

Here’s how it works. First, you imagine yourself doing, having or being what you say you want. Want it so bad that you have that commitment to do whatever it takes. Make sure you truly believe you can make that happen, and that you deserve it. Finally, create a plan and work it. Work on it every day. Get support if you need it. Do it.

Three Wishes


Imagine that you’re being give three wishes today. Would your wishes be about money, relationships, health…world peace? Would you want to be different in some way? Paul J. Meyer said, “Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe, and enthusiastically act upon must inevitably come to pass.”

If you imagined your wishes you’ve already accomplished the first step. Now, do you believe that you can have, do, or be what you’re wishing for? How much to you really, really want it?

If there was no genie and having your wishes come true depended on you taking action, are you ready to make the commitment to working towards what you wish for?

Are you really ready to have the outcomes you’d get from having your wishes fulfilled? Then let’s make it happen.

My wish is that you’d consider coaching as a resource to help you define your goals, create plans of action and, with ongoing support, accomplish what’s important to you. Contact me to talk about making your wishes come true.

Do you have, or think you have, attention deficit disorder? Here’s what Eden Tosch says about coaching:

“I don’t know anyone who doesn’t struggle with attention deficit these days. How can we not with all the bells and buzzers, expectations and commitments that most of us are trying to fulfill? For me, a small business owner trying to do everything I want and need to do, modern life spins my head around.
The ever increasing stresses of life requires some new way to get grounded and supported. There are a 100,000 coaches of various sorts out there. But until I started working with Sydney I found that life was draining and disrupting my ability to be happy and cool headed. The simple activity of having a weekly call with Sydney has helped me do things that I would never have been able to do without her! She uniquely understands how to guide inspired and overwhelmed people to deal practically with their reality!”

/Find out how coaching can work for you. Call me at 510 223 3882. Phone and Skype sessions are available.

But Wait…I’m Almost Done

Ever get pulled into an online story and know you don’t have time to read it all? Or see an intriguing headline posted on your landing page or on some other page you’re visiting? Or there’s a link to something you feel you absolutely must read for whatever reason and you feel pulled to reading it right now.

This happens to us non-linear thinkers all the time. Right now feels like the time to attend to something that’s interesting to us. The downside is that spending that time “right now” can make us late for something we’d already committed to doing.

That fifteen minutes you spend reading an article on line causes you to walk out the door to an appointment fifteen minutes later, or have to skip something else like maybe your breakfast. If only there was a way to save the article and bring it with you so that when you’re sitting in the waiting room at the dentist’s office, or on your lunch break at work you could read it then. Wouldn’t that be a good solution?

Say yes.

This is about time management. As it happens, there are ways to do just that. Both “Readability” and “Pocket” help you save web pages for later reading. The Readability site boasts “Readabity turns any web page into a clean view for reading now or later on your computer, smartphone, or tablet.” And at you’ll find another version of the same option. The exact article is right there when you have the time to read it.

Now all you have to do it remember to bring your phone when you leave! Happy reading.

You “Get To” …

It’s difficult, tedious, takes too long. You’re not sure where to start or what to do. Does that make the task sound appealing? Of course not. I frequently hear these complaints as reasons why people procrastinate. Yet, if you’re like the people I’m referring to, you actually want the thing or things done.

So what’s the solution? First, remove that negative association you have for what’s likely to be a neutral task. Instead of focusing on the downside of the task what if you looked at the benefits? Think, “I get to…” rather than “I have to…” and notice the difference that makes.

The Secret to Getting Results

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My clients always say they’d like more time, more money, better health, a more organized home or office. Who doesn’t want their life to be better, anyway.

So here’s the thing. To have improvement in any or all of the above areas you must make the commitment to do the daily work to get the result you say you want.

Motivational speaker Tony Robbins says, ““I believe life is constantly testing us for our level of commitment and life’s greatest rewards (are) reserved for those who demonstrate a never-ending commitment to act until they achieve. This level of resolve can move mountains, but it must be constant and consistent. As simplistic as this may sound, it is still the common denominator separating those who live their dreams from those who live in regret.”

The secret is to expand your comfort zone. Make a commitment to yourself. Get clear about specifically what you want your life to look like, and accept that in order to have or do what you say you want you’ll need determination and persistence…and maybe the support of a coach. That’s what I’m here for.